The Rise of Emotionally Safe Partners
You’ve heard it a million times: “Date the nice guy!” Whether it’s your best friend, your mom, or that random aunt at a family reunion, society seems to have a collective obsession with steering women away from the so-called “bad boys” and toward the ever-elusive “nice guy.” I cringe whenever I hear, "But he is a good guy." Sure, he is – but what does "good" mean? Are they certified and rolling off an assembly line? Of course not. Good for whom? Me? You? Or are they just checking a societal box of what a "good guy" should be? Why are most of us still clinging to this well-intentioned yet completely misguided advice?
Recently, I’ve encountered many women trying to force relationships with “Mr. Nice,” only to feel more triggered, hopeless, and confused than ever. After all, if not Mr. Nice, then who? I hear women say, “But he is nice, I don't want to feel this way, so it must be me. I’m the problem.” My answer? "Well, yes, it is you – but not in the way you think. Allow me to explain by shifting the focus from 'Mr. Nice Guy' to you." I invite you to join me in unwrapping some of this.